• USING MALE PRIVILEGE
    - treating them like a servant
    - making all the big decisions
    - acting like the "master of the castle"
    - being the one to define men's and women's roles
  • USING ECONOMIC ABUSE
    - preventing them from getting or keeping a job
    - making them ask for money
    - giving them an allowance
    - taking their money
    - not letting them know about or have access to family income
  • USING COERCION AND THREATS
    - making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt them
    - threatening to leave them, to commit suicide, to report them to welfare
    - making them drop charges
    - making them do illegal things
  • MINIMIZING, DENYING, AND BLAMING
    - making light of the abuse and not taking their concerns about it seriously
    - saying the abuse didn't happen
    - shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
    - saying they caused it

An Abusive Relationship is defined by...


  • USING INTIMIDATION
    - making them afraid by using looks, actions, gestures
    - smashing things
    - destroying their property
    - abusing pets
    - displaying weapons

  • USING EMOTIONAL ABUSE
    - putting them down
    - making them feel bad about themselves
    - calling them names
    - making them think they're crazy
    - playing mind games
    - humiliating them
    - making them feel guilty

  • USING ISOLATION
    - controlling what they do, who they see and talks to,
       what they read, where they goes
    - limiting their outside involvement
    - using jealousy to justify actions

  • USING CHILDREN
    - making them feel guilty about the children
    - using the children to relay messages
    - using visitation to harass them
    - threatening to take the children away

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