Individual, Couples & Family Counseling

in  Mission Viejo, Ca

                    

What is CODEPENDENCY?


  • My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you.
  • My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you.
  • Your struggles affect my serenity. My mental attention focuses on solving your problems or relieving your pain.
  • My mental attention is focused on pleasing you.
  • My mental attention is focused on protecting you.
  • My mental attention is focused on manipulating you "to do it my way."
  • My self esteem is bolstered by solving your problems.
  • My self esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain.
  • My own hobbies and interests are put aside--
  • My time is spent sharing your interests and hobbies.
  • Your clothing and personal appearance is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
  • Your behavior is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
  • I am not aware of how I feel, I am aware of how you feel.
  • I am not aware of what I want, I ask what you want. If I am not aware, I assume.
  • The dreams I have for my future are linked to you.
  • My fear of rejection determines what I say or do.
  • My fear of your anger determines what I say or do.
  • I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship.
  • My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you.
  • I put my values aside in order to connect with you.
  • I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own.
  • The quality of my life is in relation to the quality of yours.